Just last week, a mother and disc jockey lost their lives when two individuals opened fire at the Kansas City Chief’s Super Bowl rally. Twenty-two others sustained injuries- more than half of whom were kids. Although the suspects have already been arraigned in court, this is reported to be the 50th mass shooting this year.
With the high frequency of these incidents and constant exposure to social media, it’s a no-brainer that kids learn about these mass shootings. This is regardless of whether their parents and caregivers address this sensitive subject.
Due to this, guardians should take a more deliberate approach and address the topic of mass shootings in advance. Below, I’ll share a few hacks to discuss shootings with your little ones.
Acknowledge and Process Your Own Emotions
Before you sit down with your child to discuss this subject, you must acknowledge and process your own emotions first. This is because kids can easily pick up on negative feelings. They can sense when you’re sad or anxious, making them even more scared.
So, instead of approaching them in such a state, try to get a handle on your feelings. This way, you can talk to them more calmly and reassuringly.
Follow Your Child’s Cues
If you’re like most parents, you probably plan to give your kids a speech or lecture highlighting the things they should – or shouldn’t- do in the event of a shooting.
Now, this isn’t necessarily a flawed approach. But given the sensitivity of the subject, it would be better to follow your child’s lead. Try interacting with them more organically or naturally.
Use open-ended questions, which open the floor to hold long and productive conversations. At the same time, allow them to direct the discussion. Here are a few questions to help you get started:
- What did you think of…?
- What have you been seeing at school?
- How did you feel when…?
While you’re at it, keep an eye out for hints that show they’re feeling uncomfortable. If they start getting distracted or looking away, it’s a sign that they’ve heard enough about the topic. Moreover, it’s good to answer questions the best way you know how. If there are a few that you don’t know the answer to, it’s fine to admit this. Or, you can look for answers together.
Reassure Your Kids
The concept of shootings and gun violence can be extremely frightening for kids, especially if it’s not approached delicately. While holding these discussions is vital, you should not make them feel more scared. Instead, reassure them that they’re safe. Reiterate the fact that the school staff do everything to keep kids safe.
Another thing that might help is equipping them with the necessary tools and skills to handle such situations when they come up. For instance, let your child know that they should inform an adult at school if they notice one of their peers carrying a weapon.
It might also be wise to review safety procedures. They should know at least one adult at school and in the community whom they can turn to for help. “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.” (Psalms 46:1)
